Then there's the dildo's buzzy cousin, the vibrator. Though central to the sex lives
of women who crave clitoral stimulation, they can also provide throbbing thrills
for guys who keep their minds - and other apertures - open.
Bottomish toys include delightful jerk-off aids that mimic receptive mouths and
buttholes such as the
Fleshlight Flight Masturbator - available from our online store Shopgay.nl, including cock-accommodating sheaths that can be pre-warmed and lubed up.
Higher-tech horny homos employ penis pumps, both manual and electrically powered.
Stick your dick in, start pumping, and a seductive vacuum will pull your pud into
the pump's cylinder, making it swell up and feel just...swell.
Says our sex toy maven, "The kinky stuff includes everything from the mild - cockrings
that strengthen erections, and titclamps that nab onto nipples - to the truly wild.
In addition to classic SM implements like whips and bondage gear, there are mad-scientist-type
units that send electrical stimulation to the cock or hole, and piss gags, custom-designed
for the water sports fan."
Clearly, the erotic explorer could drop a small fortune on sex toys. Are they worth it?
One lustful Luddite grouses, "I never could see the appeal of hauling out all these
plastic and metal thingies in order to have sex. What the hell's wrong with the good old human body?"
But a gay gentleman who's built up quite a gear collection counters, "I love how toys
can add intensity and variety to sex. They can make very specialized scenes possible,
or, at their simplest, just fill up a hungry hole. If sex is a theme park, then my
toys are the E-ticket rides."
If you're out to acquire some tumescence-producing toys yourself, keep in mind that
shopping for them is like buying anything else. Unless you're just getting a joke gift for
a bachelor party, look for things that will be useful, not just intriguing. Learn
about what's out there, and what you'll get for your cash - dildos made of silicone,
for instance, are pricier, but a breeze to keep clean, while rubber toys must be
more carefully maintained. And keep safety in mind. For instance: Vibrators without
flared bases are liable to get lost somewhere in the colon, which can put a
damper on a romantic evening.
And of course, keep in mind that even the priciest, flashiest toys are no
substitute for enthusiasm and imagination. Remember what toys of any sort
are for: To help you have fun. But in this case, the fun will have a hard-on.
Now here's your chance to meet the man behind this column. OutUK has an interview with Simon Sheppard or you can take a look at some of his books that are currently available:
Looking for something very sexy and just as smart? Man on Man collects the best and hottest gay sex writing by Simon, who is also
co-editor of Rough Stuff: Tales of Gay Men, Sex, and
Power as well as a collection of gay erotica called
Hotter Than Hell.
In KINKORAMA : Dispatches from the Front Lines of Perversion he takes readers behind the unmarked doors and black vinyl curtains that lead to the sometimes shocking, often hilarious, relentlessly arousing scenarios of extreme sex. There
are also stories of bears in Tales from the Bear Cult: Beat Bear Stories from the Best Magazines.