Plugs of graduated sizes can train you to take larger and thicker things up there,
too. Start sensibly small and work up to the jumbo guys, and you should soon be
able to accommodate supersize visitors. A word of warning, though - a plug that's
too small or slim for you might, unless you consciously keep your muscles clenched,
pop out, and few guys like their anal toys to go flying across the room.
Buttplugs, like dildos, are made from a variety of materials. Vinyl or rubber ones
are cheapest, but hard and relatively inflexible. Jelly-rubber ones are colourful,
but porously difficult to keep spotless. Pricier silicone plugs, if they fit into
your budget, are probably best - flexibly firm and easiest to clean.
For an extra thrill, consider the vibrating plug. These fellas have a little
electric vibrator inside, wired up to a control unit that - in the good ones -
allows the user to choose from a sliding scale of sensations, from "Gently Murmuring"
to "Holy Cow!" Not only does the vibration persuade many holes to open up more
easily, guys often find the added stimulation of their prostate glands is heavenly.
And, unlike some cylindrical vibrators (you know, the ones passed off as "facial
stimulators" in polite company), vibrating plugs are safe; their substantially
flared bases won't allow the whole unit to slip inside where it can become wedged
in, resulting in an embarrassing trip to casualty.
There are lots of fun things you can do with buttplugs. They enable you to "fuck"
a guy's butt while you're sucking his dick. They also can be props in
domination/submission scenes ("I'm gonna put this in you, and you'll keep it in").
And since they can be worn for extended periods, they can even be used in public
play; nobody at that expensive restaurant will know you have it in but the two of you.
(All but the chunkiest models do tend to work themselves loose, though, so you
might want to consider a specially designed harness, or at least very tight
underwear, to keep your little friend firmly up your arse.)
The usual precautions apply. Don't share uncleaned toys. (Rubbers help keep things
tidy.) Don't let your eyes be bigger than your butthole; be sensible about
size and what you (or he) can accommodate. Make sure there are no rough edges;
remember, it's delicate in there. Don't ever, ever shove it so far in you won't
be able to get it out again. And keep it out of sight when your parents visit.
Treated well, your friendly little buttplug can provide you and yours with
many evenings of discreet, delightful, arse-tingling pleasure.
Now here's your chance to meet the man behind this column. OutUK has an interview with Simon Sheppard or you can take a look at some of his books that are currently available:
Looking for something very sexy and just as smart? Man on Man collects the best and hottest gay sex writing by Simon, who is also
co-editor of Rough Stuff: Tales of Gay Men, Sex, and
Power as well as a collection of gay erotica called
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In KINKORAMA : Dispatches from the Front Lines of Perversion he takes readers behind the unmarked doors and black vinyl curtains that lead to the sometimes shocking, often hilarious, relentlessly arousing scenarios of extreme sex. There
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