Many of us have mixed feelings about our nether regions, so letting someone kiss
your hole can bring up questions as well as hard-ons. "Is it safe? Am I clean
down there? What if I fart?"
Safety first. While the one getting rimmed can conceivably get herpes, it's the
man who's putting his mouth where a hole is who's taking the major risk. That
means that the guy getting rimmed should be a good scout - even signs of minor
indigestion should be reason enough to take a rimming rain check. And really
good scouts will get themselves inoculated against hepatitis - a good idea whatever
you're into.
Cleanliness is pretty easy to guarantee. Unlike fucking, there's no deep
penetration, so a good soap-and-water washing should do the trick. No douching
required. (And shaved holes are even easier to keep spick-and-span.) Of course,
many of us are taught early on that "it's dirty down there," so lingering anxiety
may occur. But why not just relax and enjoy some oral service?
Then there are those who don't want you to be clean: Kinky as it might seem, there
are rimmers into eating dirty butt. Some rimmees find nonhygienic homosex hot, too,
though most folks shun it. As with any edgy stuff, it's your call. But should you
give it a shot, keep in mind that it requires a bit of excretory timing, and having
a healthy gut is even more important than usual. Says one funky-bottomed top, "He
said he wanted to be my 'toilet paper,' so I figured I'd see what it was like. It
was, in fact, hot, kind of...but I'm not really sure I'd do it again."
Getting eaten might seem like a purely passive position, but many a randy rimmer
craves a response. The butt-eater in question will not, of course, be able to
see the look of delight on your face, so why not encourage him with a few enraptured
moans and a sincere-sounding "Damn! That feels great." You may feel like you're in
a porn video, but it will most likely encourage your partner to tongue you even better.
And when he's hit just the right spot, let him know it with a happy, "That's it! Right there!"
Physical feedback counts, too. Reaching back and spreading your cheeks is a sure sign
you'd like Mr. Tongue to probe deeper, while gently pumping your hips makes it all
more of a delightful dance. Adjusting your position - say, from doggy-style to on
your back - lends variety, and can make you both more comfy. But don't expect
endurance miracles. Some guys' tongues get tired pretty quickly, while others
can feast for hours. Who knows - you might get so worked up you'll be tempted
to turn the tables, or engage in a bit of anal sixty-nining.
Is getting rimmed a giant step past neat-and-clean acceptability, or one of the best
feelings there is? Well, maybe it's a bit of both. So why not put your booty where
someone else's mouth is?
Oh, and if you should someday fart at an awkward moment? Well, mate, it happens to the best of us.
Simon Sheppard
Now here's your chance to meet the man behind this column. OutUK has an interview with Simon Sheppard or you can take a look at some of his books that are currently available:
Looking for something very sexy and just as smart? Man on Man collects the best and hottest gay sex writing by Simon, who is also
co-editor of Rough Stuff: Tales of Gay Men, Sex, and
Power as well as a collection of gay erotica called
Hotter Than Hell.
In KINKORAMA : Dispatches from the Front Lines of Perversion he takes readers behind the unmarked doors and black vinyl curtains that lead to the sometimes shocking, often hilarious, relentlessly arousing scenarios of extreme sex. There
are also stories of bears in Tales from the Bear Cult: Beat Bear Stories from the Best Magazines.
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