And
though het
couples can and do indulge, there's something about same-sex sixty-nine
that's especially delightful in its giving and receiving of
mirror-image
pleasures. Gee, it's almost divine - the 69 that stands for giving
mutual
head is kind of a cousin to the yin-yang symbol that symbolizes the
balance
of the universe. But you don't have to be be a philosopher to enjoy the
process of giving as good as you get.
The fellatio fan elaborates: "It's knowing that your partner is feeling
pretty much what you're feeling, and doing what you're doing, that
makes
sixty-nine so intimate." You can show your partner just what feels good
to
you by doing it to him, and vice versa, as the action escalates towards
orgasm. It's an exercise in simultaneous pleasure: two men side-by-side
in a
circuit of sex. And if one guy's mouth wanders off the shaft and onto
nearby
erogenous zones, or his hands play with balls or butthole, he may well
find
his partner joining in a sexy game of follow-the-leader.
Still, the bedroom balance of classic sixty-nine will please some guys
more
than others. Dedicated dicksuckers might prefer not to be distracted
from
selfless servicing. "I'm really a big bottom," says a big bottom, "so
when I
sixty-nine, I want to lie on my back and have the other guy just shove
himself down my throat. His mouth on me feels great, sure, but I still
crave
that submissive feeling."
Sixty-nine is best if both of you are equally adept at sword
swallowing, as
all that stimulation can cause a careless cocksucker to lose
concentration.
The usual pole-smoking tips apply: relax and don't forget to breathe.
Oh, and
watch your teeth, unless you want a reactive chomp in return. But
successful
sixty-nining really is damn near as simple as ... well, mutual
masturbation.
There's even a anatomical plus: since many guys' cocks curve upward,
soixante-neuf matches shaft shape to throat curve in a generally
convenient
way.
Sixty-nine can be almost too much fun, all that stimulation speeding
some
guys to the brink. "I already come quick when I'm getting blown," says
one
fellow, "so when I'm sixty-nining, I have to pace myself or I get off
too
soon." Such minor problems aside, though, the pleasures of the position
are
immense. And more than two can play. When three or more men forming an
oral
daisy chain, what's lost in direct feedback is made up for by the
let's-all-have-a-party vibe.
Though good sex of all sorts is marked by attentiveness to a partner's
feelings and nonverbal cues, sixty-nining is especially dependent on
reading
your partner's body language. After all, it's hard to talk with your
mouth
full.
Simon Sheppard
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