There has been a long and recognised relationship between the Gay community and
those of us who choose to cross dress or redefine the gender boundaries. In the
past those outside of this community only associated transgender in the form of
the drag queens and entertainers. However in this era of greater
acceptance of the individual there is now a greater understanding of TVs, TSs and
cross dressers. For OutUK Andrea explores the close bond between gay men and the girls.
Surprisingly few girls are genuinely gay, many are however bi-sexual, but if
we are honest most would say that they are heterosexual. But and its a big BUT,
all girls dream, fantasise, and long for a handsome man to take them out and
treat them like a real Lady.|
The gay man often fits this criteria as both
communities are receptive to tolerance and the need for social interaction.
We both feel the need to be well groomed and of a smart sharp appearance.
This doesnt mean suit and tie, but for us girls there will be man with her
who generally will be looking after his body and appearance. We like this!
For us girls this means it will be the rare, but much sought after chance, to
show off our glad rags which for many like me will be our highest heels, and our
sexiest and shortest micro mini skirt! Hence why we love to have a real man on our
arm. I suppose in a way we also think that we are dressing to please our man. If
you have ever spent an evening in 6 stilettos you will know what I mean! It
in a subtle way is also quite subservient. But beware, as we girls love to flirt.
So its not too surprising if once in a while we step over the sexual divide and
experiment. For many this is also a realisation that we too have feelings and desires
for a real man.
For many gay men, this also provides the level of comfort and security they so often
seek, especially where the girl is very convincing. This is also very true for
most girls and is the main reason preventing many from taking the plunge and
stepping out into the real world and not just hiding behind closed doors. This
mutual need for acceptance into the surrounding society is often still there for
both of us. Mind you because of the way us girls love to dress, we are never
far away from attracting attention to ourselves. Im afraid Im no exception,
as only last week I was taken out to a night club in London wearing 6 stiletto heels,
thigh high, black leather boots and a 10 micro mini skirt which Kylie would have
been proud of. Even so, there is the underlying comfort that we are with someone else.
A dance, a cuddle and maybe a little bit more you guys are the perfect gentlemen
you ought to be proud of yourselves. Despite my appearance, I have never been treated
disrespectfully or harshly. Indeed I think sometimes you are afraid to ask in case
I may say no...for a dance at least.
Of course there are many where there is a genuine gay relationship, and we girls
see no distinction with another girl of that persuasion. We may even be a little
envious at times. Like everything else in life we too come in all manner of forms
from pure cross dressers, though to drag queens and to those who have gone for the
full operation. In respect to the later the agenda is a little different they
invariably would be seeking the company of a partner who sees them only and purely
as a real woman and not necessarily that of a former man. Drag Queens are yet another
facet of our girls desires but are unashamedly trying to be in both Girl and Boy
Besides the obvious sexual buzz, we two factions share so much more the nightlife
of many of our cities often centres on a geographical nucleus of clubs, bars restaurants
and hotels that cater for the gay clientele rarely would turn away a glamorous girl.
Well Ive never found one yet. Indeed many girls get reduced admission charges,
no doubt to reward them for all their effort to dress up...I wish.|
But beyond these
dedicated venues there are many more instances where we have much in common. The
recognition over the last decade in particular of the Pink Pound has broken down
many barriers in society. Retailers now recognise that your money provides a lucrative
market place, and its catching on for us girls. We now have the Lavender Pound, and
in respect to general retail outlets ladies fashions shops for example many are
totally conversant and helpful in accommodating us.
So when you next see a stunning looking girl in a club pay her the compliment
of asking her for a dance she might just say yes I would!